Attachment Therapy
in Denver, Colorado
Healthy, secure relationships are possible.
When you’re ready, I’ll walk alongside you as you create them.
Relationship wounds are not always tied to one obvious event.
Sometimes it is the slow realization that you remained in a relationship longer than was healthy for you — and with distance, you begin to see patterns you once explained away. Sometimes it is recognizing that the support or understanding you needed from family was not fully there. And sometimes it is uncovering messages learned early in life that are now quietly shaping how you move through relationships, self-worth, and daily decisions.
Many of the adults I work with wonder if they are overthinking, overreacting, or “making a big deal out of nothing,” even while another part of them knows their experience mattered.
That inner awareness is worth paying attention to.
“Why do we keep hurting each other even when we don’t mean to?”
This may sound familiar...
Love, closeness, and trust are not meant to feel like an endless tug of war between wanting connection and bracing for disappointment.
And yet, for many couples, that is exactly what relationships start to feel like.
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Reaching for reassurance one moment and pulling away the next.
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Replaying conversations — what was said, how it was said, what you wish you had expressed — and struggling to let them go.
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Misreading tone, questioning intent, or finding yourselves in the same argument with a different surface issue.
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Quietly wondering if you are asking for too much, not asking clearly enough, or somehow continuing to miss each other.
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Feeling unexpectedly on edge in situations that don’t seem to call for it, unsure how to fully relax.
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Constantly evaluating your reactions, questioning whether you are overthinking, misreading, or being “too sensitive.”
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Noticing your body respond before your mind can — tightening, bracing, or shutting down — even when part of you knows you are safe.
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Appearing capable and composed from the outside, while internally things feel far less settled.
Often, these patterns are rooted in how each person learned to protect themselves long before this relationship existed. Your nervous systems are trying to keep you safe, even when their strategies are now getting in the way of closeness.
Maybe one of you over-functions in the relationship, trying to repair, explain, and hold things together even when you are exhausted.
Maybe one of you shuts down or creates distance when emotions rise because closeness feels overwhelming or risky.
Maybe conflict does not just feel uncomfortable, but threatening, as if one wrong conversation could push you farther apart.
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These patterns are not flaws. They are adaptive responses that once made sense. They developed to protect you, even if they now make intimacy feel fragile or hard to sustain.
Deeply secure, nourishing relationships are not reserved for other people. They are possible for you, too.
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Most couples do not struggle because they cannot communicate. They struggle because every conversation is filtered through old wounds, unmet needs, and long held beliefs about closeness, safety, and love.
When those deeper layers are not understood, even well intentioned conversations can spiral into defensiveness, shutdown, or distance.
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​That does not mean something is wrong with either of you.​​​
What Support Can Look Like Here
Support here is centered on helping you feel less internal chaos, with fewer looping thoughts, less mental replay, less bracing for outcomes that rarely unfold, and greater trust in both your body and your mind.
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The intention is not to eliminate your reactions or “fix” anything about who you are. Instead, our work is about helping you feel more grounded within yourself, less emotionally flooded, and better able to navigate your inner world with steadiness and ease.
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Together, we pay attention to the moments that arise in everyday life, when emotions spike, your body tenses, you shut down, or find yourself pulling away. With curiosity rather than judgment, we begin to understand what these responses may be trying to protect.
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Over time, experiences that once felt intense or consuming often soften. You gain space, and with that space, greater choice, allowing you to respond in ways that feel more aligned with who you are: calm, self trusting, and increasingly self led.
Learn Your Attachment Style
A meaningful starting point in our work is identifying your attachment style, the relational blueprint shaped by your earliest experiences.
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Your attachment style influences how you respond to closeness, express emotional needs, navigate conflict, and experience safety with others. Many people move through life unaware of these patterns while still feeling their impact in everyday interactions.
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To support this process, you will have the option to complete my Attachment Style Quiz, a tool designed to help clarify your patterns and deepen insight both before and throughout our work together.
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From there, we use this understanding as a foundation for change, helping you move toward greater security, emotional balance, and self trust.
What that can look
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Learning to Understand, Express, and Receive Your Needs
Many people were never taught how to fully recognize their needs, let alone express them or feel comfortable receiving support. Instead, they learned to downplay their needs, question them, or prioritize others.
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In our work together, you will learn how to better understand your emotional needs, express them with greater clarity, and become more open to receiving care and support. As this becomes easier, anxiety often decreases and relationships begin to feel more secure and balanced.
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Over time, this work strengthens self trust and helps you move through the world with greater confidence and emotional steadiness.
Shifting Core Beliefs and
Healing Emotional Wounds
Many of the beliefs we carry about ourselves and others are shaped within our earliest relationships.
Over time, these beliefs become part of our internal programming, operating outside of conscious awareness and influencing how safe we feel, how we connect, and what we expect from those around us.
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In our work together, we gently bring these subconscious patterns into awareness and begin shifting the ones that no longer support you. This process is not about blaming the past, but about helping your nervous system experience new ways of relating that feel more secure, stable, and supportive.
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As these deeper patterns evolve, many people notice greater emotional regulation, increased self trust, and a stronger capacity for connection.
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Developing Healthy Boundaries
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Healthy boundaries often begin with a deeper sense of internal security. When attachment patterns have been shaped by inconsistency, emotional overwhelm, or the need to prioritize others, setting boundaries can feel unfamiliar or even uncomfortable.
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In our work together, you will learn how to recognize your limits, communicate them more clearly, and respond in ways that honor both your needs and your relationships. Boundaries are not about creating distance. They are about fostering safety, mutual respect, and emotional balance.
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As boundaries strengthen, many people experience greater self trust, more stable relationships, and an increased sense of confidence in how they move through the world.
If any of this feels like it fits...
You are already in the right place. You do not have to be completely certain or have everything figured out before reaching out. Many people begin here feeling unsure, emotionally tired, or simply aware that they want life to feel different than it does right now.
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When you feel ready, we can start with a brief conversation. You are welcome to ask any questions, get a sense of how I work, and explore whether this feels like a good fit, with no pressure to commit. We will begin exactly where you are.