I want to tell you something I learned in years of sitting with women in therapy, and honestly from watching it happen with friends, with family, and in my own life too. And I say this gently, because if you have been through a breakup that felt like it came out of nowhere, this might sting before it helps.

For years I sat across from women in therapy, week after week, and listened to what they said about their relationships when their partner was nowhere in the room. No filter. No fear of starting a fight. Just the truth as they felt it.

I want to say something that is rarely seen on the internet these days. I genuinely believe that people who are dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant can heal and learn how to have a secure and healthy relationship. And I know that might be hard to hear if you have been hurt by one. Avoidants are pretty much hated everywhere you look online right now, and honestly, I get it. The pain of loving someone avoidant can be devastating in a way that is hard to explain unless you

There are three things I used to do in relationships that I now recognize as genuinely destructive. And what makes them so hard to catch is that none of them felt wrong at the time. They felt completely normal, because they were what I grew up watching. And if I am being honest, they are what a lot of us grew up watching.

If you are a man who struggles in relationships, whether you grew up as a latchkey kid in the 70s or 80s, or you were raised in a household that looked fine from the outside but felt emotionally empty on the inside, this is for you.

What if your anger is not actually about what you think it is? What if it is not even the real emotion at all, but something that showed up to protect you from feelings that felt way too dangerous to sit with?

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner pulled back a little? Maybe they went quiet, took longer to text back, seemed a little distant. And even though nothing was technically wrong, you completely spiraled. You started over-analyzing every message. You needed reassurance. Maybe you pulled toward them harder, or maybe you shut down completely. And the whole time, part of you was watching yourself do it, thinking: why am I like this? I know better than this. Wh

A lot of people use the terms silent treatment and stonewalling interchangeably, but they are actually very different.

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Breakups can leave you feeling stuck, dysregulated, and unable to move forward, even when you know the relationship is over. If you are struggling with how to heal after a breakup, you are not alone. In this post, I am sharing four things that can help you begin breakup healing in a healthier, more grounded way. If you would rather hear me talk through this and share more of my personal experience, you can watch the video below. If you prefer to read, I break everything down